How To Get Your Ex Back

 If you are positive that your partner is the one for you, then you need to have a plan to bring them back. You need a plan because right now you are probably too scatter brained to rationally think about your situation.

Everything you are feeling right now(i.e. heart-broken, desperate, emotional, stressed, and fearful) are all playing AGAINST you while you want to get your ex back.

Here are some of the common mistakes you could be making right now as you are trying to get your ex back:

     1. Not taking it seriously - If you want them back, then you need to be commited. If you think you can win them back by just doing what you have always done, or if you doubt yourself, then you are probably not seeing the results you want to see.

     2. Not willing to change - First off let me clarify, you should NEVER change for someone else. But if there is a behavior that you know is bad for you, but you keep doing it even though your ex hates it, then maybe your not as committed as you thought you were.

     3. Not having a positive self-image - Do you feel that you don't deserve them? Or that yor are not good enough for them? These will both limit your ability to getting them back. 

It could also mean that you are feeling regretful for something that you have done. Now don't be overly cocky about your ability to get them back, but if your self-image was poor before they left you, then you might need to work on this area.

     4. Not paying attention to what your partner wants - It's easy to become the victim. You got hurt, you are out of control, and you are desperate to get them back. You might want your ex to feel sorry for you, so what you do around them is filled with self-pity.

This is not only unattractive but it will also make your ex confirm his/her decision in leaving you.

Focus your attention away from the pain you are feeling and think about how your ex see's it. Did you hurt them just as they hurt you?

     5. Not taking action - Doing is more powerful than talking. The best way to start changing yourself for the better is by doing small things for yourself everyday.

Simply saying that you will change and things will be better does not actually make things change. To show your ex that you are going to change, you need to start putting that change into action.

     6. Having misguided beliefs - Never EXPECT them to come back. Your thinking that way will only come through in your action and will do nothing except repel their desire to come back. Be genuine and loving but never expect to get the same in return.

     7. Not being confident - People are attracted to those that are self-assured and confident in their abilities.

     8. Panicking - Doing that at this stage is going to hurt your cause more. This is things like drunk dialing, stalking, constant texting and trying to talk with their friends and family to try and get them back. Avoid these at all costs!

     9. Being TOO Proud - You need to think about which is more important. Winning the battle or winning your love back. Swallow your pride and don't let a great thing go because of your ego.

     10. Being Self Destructive - It is way to common for people to drown their sorrows with alcohol and drugs. Now is NOT the time for it.

You need to be in the best shape you could possibly be in. Which means eating healthy, excercising, getting out of the house etc... Substance abuse is not only bad for your body, but it will just make you feel worse in the long haul.

What if you have made some of these mistakes already? Is it too late?

Honestly, what you have done up to this point is not as important  when you compare it to the overall scheme of things, just as long as you start changing right now!

If everyone believed that their past would equal their future, then not a whole lot would get done, and people would stop trying after the first time.

 How do you change? How do you begin to not only stop making the mistakes but let your ex see that you are not the person that they broke up with, but the person they fell in love with instead?

You have to start changing, one thing at a time. You have to identify the root of the problem and go from there. If you start blindly without dealing with the core issues, your ex will see through your blatant persuasions. You need to sit down and write out why exactly your ex left you and what you plan on doing to get your ex back NOW.

Follow these simple instructions and you will be on a path to success.